The vast majority of people think that they can handle the truth or the way things really are. They think that they can handle the truth about the world. The truth about what other people think about them, about their ideas and about their work. The problem that people have when dealing with others is they simply sugar coat everything. They lie when asked if they like a new song, a new article of clothing. The biggest lie people tell is when asked if they like someone as a person. When the truth comes out about their true feelings about the thing, feelings get hurt, tempers fly and bridges are burned.
Back at my old job before being a business coach, they had evaluations about how management was going and how the store was running. When I talked with the other employees they complained about the way things were and how management was. However, when the evaluations came around they all only said positive things and sugar-coated it, just in case what negative thing they said came back to them. They openly complain about how things are run but they don’t have the courage to leave the place. This is rather frustrating when management is trying to gather real input about how things are going. The truth is something that most people do not want to give out cause it causes harsh feelings and honestly can create hard conversations that most people try and avoid cause the truth is hard and ugly. This can be the part of being head of a department (or a business coach), being able to balance the truth and making sure that they are not going to worry unnecessarily.
This is a big deal when dealing with people as a business coach, making sure that they do not worry about the things that they should not worry about – things that are not their concern. This is something that most managers struggle with when the truth comes out about a particular struggle that the team is going through. They decide they must be real with the team and let them know that the team is in trouble. This will cause the employees to worry, rush, and the quality of work will decrease and the moral will decrease as well. The art of making sure that you keep the ugly truth from the general is important because they cannot handle what is really going on, hence why some people can handle people management and others cannot.
The truth is something that most people do not want to give out cause it causes harsh feelings and honestly can create hard conversations that most people try and avoid cause the truth is hard and ugly.
The truth can be brutal, harsh, can cause ill feelings and can really bring out the worst in people. It can panic and can bring down work production. On the other hand, when the truth is told in a way that can help bring up work production and can help strengthen relationships. Most of the time, and when I say most of the time I mean 99% of the time when someone tells the truth about how they feel on any subject someone is going to get hurt and have ill feelings. The truth can either make or break relationships for employees, business coaches, etc. Make them work harder or work not as hard.