If you are ever going to become the kind of person who receives business coach and achieves huge amounts of success, you must learn to focus only on what you can control. You can’t control the weather. You can’t control the thoughts of other people. You can’t control the overall economy; however you can control your thoughts, your expectations, and your luck. The thing that most unsuccessful people refer to as “luck” is simply nothing more than the intersection of help from a business coach, preparation, and opportunity. If you prepare yourself and you are constantly doing the little things right, you will find yourself getting opportunities that never would have happened before. You must be prepared for when these opportunities occur.
“I’m a great believer in luck, and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.” – Thomas Jefferson
Here is the 3 part business coach system you must use to create opportunities for yourself daily:
1: Contact people of influence.
2: Build a massive database of humans that you have met.
3: Take more shots than anyone else in the game.
Let’s go into more detail about each step in the 3 part system.
Business Coach System Part 1: Contact people of influence daily
You must quickly grasp the truth that “it’s not what you know, but who you know.” You must begin systematically reaching out to the people of influence that need to know. There is a very strong possibility that billionaires, investors, celebrities and successful entrepreneurs are not going to wake up tomorrow with your SPECIFIC NAME in their heads and a HUGE MOTIVATION to mentor you to back it up. Therefore, you must reach out to the people who you need to know. Every morning you must commit to reaching out to these people. EVERY DAY you must do this. Are you going to actually commit to doing this or are you going to “try to remember?” You must commit to doing this everyday or you will fail and it will be your fault.
Business Coach System Part 2: Build a massive database of humans that you have met
Because you are in that elite group of people that actually do things instead of just intending to do things, soon you are going to find yourself going out to eat with hotel owners, billionaires, multi-millionaires, celebrities, Mayors and other people of influence. This is great, but merely getting in front of them is not enough.
When you meet these people you must be very intentional about building rapport with them. Find out where they want to go with their lives and how you can help them get there in a way that benefits you too. Once you determine this information, you must save them into your database so that you can quickly find their information when you need it. You must determine how you will help this person of influence turn their goals into reality in a way that benefits both of you. You then must take ACTION. Pretty soon you will find yourself in partnership with people of influence. Pretty soon you will find yourself hanging out with the same people. You will soon be sitting at the same tables. You will find yourself wearing the same clothes and doing the same things. You will find yourself succeeding.
My friend, birds of a feather flock together. Don’t hang out with a bunch of penguins that are incapable of flying. Hang around eagles soaring through the sky with the greatest of ease. Have them teach you how, and pretty soon you too will become an eagle too. Once you meet these eagles, you must save their NAME, NUMBER, E-MAIL ADDRESS, OCCUPATION, and THEIR GOALS into your database so that you will maintain contact with these leaders.
Business Coach System Part 3: Take more shots than anyone else in the game.
You will never be “lucky enough” to hit a game-winning shot if you never actually shoot the ball. In fact your probability of ever hitting a game-winning shot will increase exponentially just by shooting the ball more. In fact, Michael Jordan, who was one of the best professional basketball players of all time, is famous for saying “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” The question you need to ask yourself is this: Are you shooting enough? If you can’t handle rejection and losing from time to time, you will never succeed. This is some SERIOUS STUFF HERE: If you can’t deal with missing shots in front of a sell out crowd, then you don’t have what it takes to achieve greatness, thus you must go to work for someone else as soon as possible or you will be very poor.
Time is your most important asset, so manage it wisely.
“Time is the scarcest resource of the manager; If it is not managed, nothing else can be managed.” Peter F. Drucker (Management Expert, Pioneer & Guru)
Spending a lot of time, dwelling on the importance of time would not be a good use of anyone’s time so I will get right down to the point. Oprah, Bill Gates, the late Michael Jackson, Ghandi, Will Smith, Henry Ford, Russell Simmons, Jay-Z, you and I all have the same amount of time everyday to turn our lives into a reality. It makes sense for us all to become time-management experts because this really means that we would all be life management experts.
Here is my tried and proven daily system:
Step 1: Everyday, wake up before everyone else in your home does. Create a quiet time for yourself where you just “think and plan.” Henry Ford (the famous automobile Tycoon) once famously said, “Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it.” How many of us actually take time out to think and plan each morning? I do. How about you?
Step 2: Write down your goals for the following five categories: spirit, mind, body, relationships, and finance. Remember to make BIG DAILY goals for yourself.
Donald Trump was right when he said, “If you’re going to be thinking anything, you might as well think big.” My friend you have to make BIG daily goals for yourself everyday if you are going to ever create life momentum. Write down the 5 categories listed above and make a goal in each of these areas that you can achieve today.
Step 3: Commit to getting everything on your list done everyday. When you accomplish something you will feel good about yourself. When you cross an item off of your to-do-list you will feel better about yourself. The more you get done, the better you will feel. The better you feel, the more confident and ambitious you will feel. You must build life momentum everyday. If you are living in your mom’s basement waiting for the ladies (or dudes) to call and take you on a hot date, it is not going to happen. You must jump start your own life by getting up early, making a to-do-list and committing to accomplishing it everyday!
Step 4: Only work via appointment. Don’t take random calls when you can afford not to. If you don’t have a support staff, just set up blocks of time where you focus on one thing. Focusing on everything all at once will cause your life vision to become blurry and your brain might explode. Friend, you must learn to set appointments for everything in your life. Set appointments to work out. Set appointments to make out with your spouse. Set appointments to meet with people. Set appointments to pay bills and hold yourself accountable. To make this happen you must carry a day-timer at all times.
Step 5: Only engage in mutually beneficial relationships. If someone cannot benefit you and you cannot benefit them on some level,you do not need to waste your life (time) having these bogus interactions and meetings. You must be able to tell people “No”. My friend, I had to start charging people for business coach because I had literally hundred of “great intenders” and “non-doers-of-anything” calling me see if they could “pick my brain” and “take me out to lunch”. If I can’t add value to something I am not going to be on your committee. If you cannot benefit from having a meeting with someone, learn to say “No”. Say it graciously, but say it often. If it’s not a mutually beneficial relationship, just say “No!”
Step 6: Only focus on what you can control. If two dudes are talking about their discontentment with politics and the weather, do not participate in this conversation. If someone is contemplating the various nuances of the Earth’s religions walk away. My friend, only focus on things that you can control. If you have a fixable problem, fix it. If it is not fixable, move on to something that is. I’m white. He’s black. She’s Asian. He’s a dude. She’s a lady. He’s smarter than I am. She’s taller than I am. Who cares? Just focus on what you can control. He came from wealth. She came from poverty. You came from poverty too. Get over it! Your Dad was a jerk. Her Dad was great. Her Mom was there for her and your Mom wasn’t. Get over it! You must learn to focus only on what you can control.
Step 7: Pay experts and charge if you are one. If you want to save yourself a bunch of time, it is always easier to be a pirate than a pioneer. I’m telling you this from first hand experience here. For me the few hours I have spent with Lori Montag (founder of Zany Bandz and Slap Watch), Clifton Taulbert (New York Times Best-Selling Author and Entrepreneur), Chet Cadieux (the CEO of QuikTrip Convenience Stores) and David Green (the Founder of Hobby Lobby) have completely changed my life. Had I just gone out and “tried my best,” I probably would still be struggling in many areas. Why must you go out and reinvent the wheel? If someone knows what you need to know, just pay them for their information. Read their book or pay them for a 1/2 hour of their time. Sometimes 15 minutes with a guru is all you need to get from where you are to where you want to be. If you are a guru, you really need to charge others for your time. If people are constantly coming to you to ask for your advice, you must charge them or you will eventually spend all of your time helping them achieve their goals and no time achieving your goals. People who are serious about success will be willing to pay you.
For more information about “Time Management” email us at [email protected], sign up for a free trial or call us at 918-878-0216, and we will gladly send you out a daily goal setting work sheet that you can use to help you manage your time more effectively.
All the business coach tips in this blog post work, but they won’t work if you don’t work.