The Art of Getting Things Done (Part 7)

Show Notes

Description – During today’s broadcast of The Thrive Time Business Coach Radio Show, Clay Clark and Doctor Zoellner break down Super Moves #51 – #58 of their upcoming book, The Art of Getting Things Done. During the show they teach the following concepts and more:
1. Not engaging in gossip
2. Not over-committing
3. Knowing your goals
4. Not traveling before you have the time freedom to do so
5. Paying experts
6. Avoid death by got-a-minute meetings
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Audio Transcription

Move #51

When you hear the phrase “committee” run for the hills.

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Opinions are the cheapest commodities on earth. Everyone has a flock of opinions ready to be wished upon anyone who will accept them. If you are influenced by “opinions” when you reach DECISIONS, you will not succeed in any undertaking.” – Napoleon Hill (Best-selling author of Think and Grow Rich and the personal apprentice of the late great Andrew Carnegie)

There is nothing more unproductive for most business situations that you work with a committee of people to make decision. This “task force” and “committee” will spend months playing grab-ass and going out to lunch and they will spend almost zero time gathering the facts and then making the tough decisions. If you constantly feel the need to run everything in your life by a committee of people you will lose the game of life.

I would challenge you here and now to write out the answers to the following questions for your betterment:

  1. In what ways in your life are procrastinating on making decisions because you want to run your ideas by a massive committee of people? ___________________________
  2. What is a “grab-ass-playing” committee that you are currently serving on that you need to get off of? __________________________________________________________

Move #52

Don’t suffer death by “got-a-minute” meetings.

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Cut out the got-a-minute meetings and tell employees to hold it for meeting.” – Chet Holmes (Best-selling author of The Ultimate Sales Machine)

Super Moves: The Moves to Avoid the Got-A-Minute Meetings:

  1. Observe the organizational chart
  2. Bring that up in the meeting
  3. I have a rash
  4. Crazy time to meet
  5. Fake incoming call
  6. Fake an injury

If you are going to be a productive and purposeful person you are going to have to be focused and you can’t remain focused when you are constantly interrupted. In the world of small and medium-sized business I have personally witnessed some of the most brilliant people reduced to the status of almost a zero-impact team player as a result of the constant barrage of “got-a-minute meetings.” You have to work very hard to free yourself from the endless interruptions. I would challenge you here and now to write out the answers to the following questions for your betterment:

  1. How could you change the organization chart of your business to limit people’s access to you? ___________________________________________________
  2. How could you change the structure or the frequency of your weekly meetings so that your team has a place and time to ask you their important questions all at once? ___________________________________________________________
  3. How could you adjust your schedule to minimize your physical presence with your teammates so that it is now physically impossible for them to pelt you with unsolicited “got-a-minute” meeting questions?___________________________

Move #53

Pay people to do what they do best so you don’t end up spending your entire day fixing your computer, cleaning your house, doing your laundry and mowing your lawn.

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “If you spend your time, worth $20-25 per hour, doing something that someone else will do for $10 per hour, it’s simply a poor use of resources.” – Tim Ferriss (One of the world’s leading authorities on time management and the best-selling author of The Four Hour Work Week series of books)

Don’t be greedy with money and especially when simply paying somebody to do a repetitive task could save you massive amounts of time. As an example, today I paid a company $78 to change my oil and it saved me 3 hours…and I’ve done this kind of thing since I had three jobs and very little money after spending my weeks working at Applebee’s, Target and DirecTV. If I wanted to change my own oil I would have had to have the skills, the equipment, and the physical space needed to change my oil…all of these things would have required time. Today I’m not doing my laundry because I pay someone to do it and I’m not mowing my lawn because my son loves doing it. But, if my son wasn’t passionate about mowing lawns, I would pay someone else to do it for me. My friend you only live once, don’t spend your entire day fixing your computer or cutting grass. By and large you won’t find anyone who is a billionaire or anyone who is going to become a millionaire out there mowing their grass. Pay someone when possible to knock out life’s tasks for you. I would challenge you here and now to write out the answers to the following questions for your betterment:

  1. What are 3 tasks that you could hire someone to do so that you can buy back your time? ______________________________________________________
  2. What is a piece of technology that you could invest in that could allow you to free up much of your time like buying a washing machine rather than sitting at a laundromat? ____________________________________________________

Move #54

Don’t travel until you are not perpetually behind.

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “It’s lonely at the top. Ninety-nine percent of people in the world are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things, so they aim for the mediocre. The level of competition is thus fiercest for ‘realistic’ goals, paradoxically making them the most time and energy-consuming.” – Tim Ferriss (A man who has written a number of self-help books on the “4-hour” theme, some of which have appeared on the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA Today bestseller lists, starting with The 4-Hour Workweek.)

We all know people who travel all of the time for pleasure, but yet are perpetually behind at work, with their taxes and with their lives. My friend, I would recommend that you do not travel until you are caught up and can stay that way. There is a season for everything, but I have seen way too many people trying to make this the “travel season of their life” while running around perpetually overwhelmed and behind. It’s hard to get anything done if you are not physically present. I would challenge you here and now to write out the answers to the following questions for your betterment:

  1. What systems or goals need to be accomplished before consistent traveling for pleasure can be reintroduced back into your life? ________________________
  2. When was the last time you traveled for pleasure when you shouldn’t have? ________________________________________________________________

Move #55

Live a purposeful life by clearly knowing your goals and putting them into your schedule.

“For all their bitching about what’s holding them back, most people have a lot of trouble coming up with the defined dreams they’re being held from.” – Tim Ferriss (An angel investor and an advisor to Facebook, Twitter, Evernote, and Uber, among other companies.)

We talked about it earlier during the book, but you have to know the purpose for your life and you must clearly define your F6 Goals if you are going to become a more productive person. You simply must invest the time to specifically map out the goals you have for your faith, family, friendships, fitness, finances, and fun or you will spend your time drifting around and not living the life you want. When you don’t live purposefully and you allow yourself to drift you will LOSE BY DEFAULT. I would challenge you here and now to write out the answers to the following questions for your betterment:

  1. What are you specific one year goals for your faith? ___________________________
  2. What are you specific one year goals for your family? ___________________________
  3. What are you specific one year goals for your friendships? _______________________
  4. What are you specific one year goals for your fitness? ___________________________
  5. What are you specific one year goals for your finances? _________________________
  6. What are you specific one year goals for your fun? _____________________________

Move #56

Don’t engage in gossip.

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29
If possible, don’t talk about people when they are not present. This is hard to do when you are in charge because often times you have deal with nefarious employees and partners who are playing games and this requires strategizing. Also as a leader you must teach your next generation of people by examples and not abstract concepts so occasionally you must use real-life human examples. But as a general rule do not discuss other people when they are not present.  I would challenge you here and now to write out the answers to the following questions for your betterment:

  1. How could you minimize your discussions about the actions of people in your life? __________________________________________________________
  2. How could you minimize your discussion about the emotions of other people in your life? _______________________________________________________

Move #57

Don’t over-commit to things.

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “People think focus means saying yes to the thing you’ve got to focus on. But that’s not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I’m actually as proud of the things we haven’t done as the things I have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things.” – Steve Jobs (Co-founder of Apple and the former CEO of PIXAR who saved the company from a path to certain failure when he took over the company at the request of his dear friend, George Lucas)

You don’t have to do something just because someone asks you to. Thus, you don’t need to feel the need accept every dinner invitation, every calendar invite and every request for a “quick meeting.” If you feel like your current calendar is overwhelmed with obligations, then it is time to pull some over-commitment-weeds out of your calendar because they are choking off your life. I would challenge you here and now to write out the answers to the following questions for your betterment:

  1. What is something that you committed to that you need to not reup for? _______________________________________________________________
  2. What is a soul-sucking time commitment that you can get out of? ________________________________________________________________
  3. What is an association or networking club that you need to get out of? ________________________________________________________________


Move #58

Create a checklist for everything.

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “The volume and complexity of what we know has exceeded our individual ability to deliver its benefits correctly, safely, or reliably (without a checklist).” – Atul Gawande (An American surgeon, writer, and public health researcher. He practices general and endocrine surgery at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, Massachusetts. He is a professor in the Department of Health Policy and Management at the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health and the Samuel O. Thier Professor of Surgery at Harvard Medical School.)

Southwest Airlines uses checklists for maintaining and flying planes, Manhattan Construction uses checklists for buildings, Starbucks uses checklists for cleaning their bathrooms, Wholefoods uses checklists for their daily operations, and basically anything that is consistently of high quality involves the use of a checklist. Thus, if you want to have a high-quality vacation, office, or life use a checklist.

I would challenge you here and now to write out the answers to the following questions for your betterment:

  1. In what areas of life would a checklist save you massive amounts of time and potential forgetfulness? ________________________________________________________
  2. How many sales are you losing as a result of forgetting to follow-up? ______________
  3. When was the last trip you went on where you forgot to bring underwear, pants, a tie, or something important because you didn’t have a packing checklist? ________________



boom boom boom and boom welcome back to the business coach Thrive time show on your radio. My name is Clay Clark. The former ussa entrepreneur of the Year sent here on a mission to get you into a great financial position and, as always, it is ecstasy when the Z is next to me, dr. zoellner. How are you my friend I am so excited, I’m so happy, I’m so fired up off the floor. I can feel the fire. Can You Feel the Fire? We also have one of Tulsa’s Premier business coach team members. So I can tell you what I did tell you: what computer died two days ago until we had a burial, we had a ceremony, it was you know what somebody lose a computer, it’s it’s a sad day, but we did. The word 270 shows are to 100 wake up to now 260-270. This will be 270 and I trudged through them my sidekick. It wasn’t that the original laptops Of All Times actually made of wood. It was from the 80s yeah. I know I think no, I hadn’t used it to algorithms that God gave Noah were fairly complex, and so he used an original Mac laptop. The first day I had, I didn’t, have all my buttons on there all the time, and now the guys you put on you put on your work. You put on your check last time, and you said I’m going to put that on my thing like it done. Last year and I come into the studio and guess what it’s it’s updated you coming, I can play on my silly little sounds shut out to the Angelika Marshall Morris business coach. I’M around I’m sure it’s the little things in life anymore.

That just kind of make me excited doing. I get a challenge that on Today Show okay, that you will hit the buttons over 50 times once every segment least people think you took it too late to get added to the guests. The listeners are excited. They want to see, can you add, say we get the 20? I can’t I can’t promise 50, but I’m going to do I’m going to do my best. Okay, if I have a group before we get into today, show which is the art of getting things done. I have a special announcement. I want to make for all the great listeners out there from the Left Coast of the Arkansas River at my barber shop over here. So you want me to go back in time and to reintroduce Eric butter chip who’s. The man who needs no introduction then go down the line you introduce me and then you were going to you going to chep chep over here and then I jumped in and said why I was so excited still.

Okay, I’m not I’m not too worried about it, though he’s a great business coach. If I’m, if your Batman and Robin would that make him, was he was a joke shop baby just to let me down and mess me around and then worst of all chopped up, you never called shop. When you say you will, but I love you still. I need you to he needs. We need him, he need you more than anyone Darlin. You know that I have from the start, so Build Me Up. Buttercup Don’t Go Breaking My Heart Will I know this is a radio show, but I’m speechless sit there twice while tomorrow, what am I supposed to my special announcement? Okay, I’ve been working with the Farmers Insurance agent. I’Ve been training them as a business coach, for this is like you’re, nine, nine years training, The District in Farmers, Insurance Agents getting them, I’m at regulated, coached up ready to go to go up there to the marketplace in to sell a premium insurance product too confident. Planters, I just brought play some party music cuz, it’s plumbers! Oh I see what you did there so today, Kirk fryer out there district 10. He actually got a new coffee maker work for 9 years. Have the same one. Now this new I walked in today and I’m like something that feels different. I look to my left. I look to my right. I will make my way to the coffee maker and there it is in all its Glory. Why do cosmic after 9 years? That’S big mess around with that is in a person, the coffee makers in person that old school we still have to pour in the oven., Put a water new one.

It’S a new old school ones. That, to me, was a highlight that mean it’s the little things. It’S a little things like that: it’s it’s a buttons, I’m still supposed to have the whole show everybody out there and driveway and we’ll be able to listen to my smile cuz. It’S on my face. If we are my face, the whole show. I got my buttons talking about we’re talking about the art of getting things done for the last few shows we left yesterday on move number 50. So today we move on their 66 ways to get more things done each one of these moves, if you put melted, could at least save you an hour of your week. Now here is the next move. Move 51. When you hear the phrase committee Run for the hills, once wrote, a book called Think and Grow Rich in the book Think and Grow Rich Napoleon Hill who studied. He was the personal princess of Andrew Carnegie, where the world’s wealthiest man, when the world’s most effective man, a man who got a lot of things – and he said that’s the point of Rights. Opinions – are the cheapest Commodities on Earth. Everyone has a flock of opinions ready to be wished upon. Anyone who accept it if you are influenced by opinions when you reach decision, you will not succeed in any undertaking Z. Why do you have to run for the hills when you hear the word committee time? Waster don’t waste time, so there is nothing more unproductive than these business situations where we form a committee or a task force to run around playing certain game involves grabbing. You know what happened. You know what this year’s holiday party when I want to do. Is I don’t, I don’t want to make a bad decision, so butter chip and I were going to team up on Madden mobile doodle Circle back next Tuesday, but we are going to research, the top venues and the top gifts, the top your party favors, and then The next week we come back and you’re like okay guys were doing and I always well. I thought I wanted you to listen ship want to do that, but yeah. What’S opening up for discussion, we may not. I found the perfect spot to someone. You know someone else probably needs a way in which open up for discussion. We need an increase the size of the committee week as we want everyone to be able to what are your thoughts Carl have an opinion about. The party is currently on his cell phone call. What do you think Kroger’s? What what? What? What? What? What are your thoughts about this retarded part of this is what Carl was sick cuz. He just got off his cell phone he’s playing it off like we all didn’t just see him get off the cell phone, but he says you know this year. I think we should do and he’s trying to come up with some kind of deep cuz. He just got called out in the meeting, and this year we should do is we should do something different and you’re like? Why won’t you do a different? I mean for for 25 years. You would like to see if we have a holiday party has a DJ. Has music he has good food, has drink tickets to give away a lot of things that you know what to mix it up to. Let’S do something different, you know what I mean and I was an Indian Elvis – That’s because there’s another hint of the third guy, the back you know his name is Gus Gus he’s an older guy he’s like oh yeah.

Absolutely I’ve been saying that all the sudden, now you got 8 people going, I don’t know where everything’s fine, it doesn’t work with clients and they brought in large constituencies long large, entourages, large democracies, and they decided that they’re going to go ahead and run it by Everybody before making a decision, can you talk about the Perpetual this function of large group decisions? Yes, a lot of times a business owner says they’re growing. They want to include their team in in the the Court decisions of the business and, of course, when we started talking about that’s funny cuz, he said he was at I’m stuck. I wrote a little note on here that says this will suck your time like it’s just going to be a time-waster going to come up with endless ideas that are not practical that are going to make you money so get out of there. Don’T do it. It’S terrible idea, if you do this see, what’s your favorite Bruno Mars Prince, you strike me as a guy who appreciates all genres, but I think she’ll, like R Ing running the Tulsa surrounding yeah hit and run the jewels run with them, but I was like yeah. He didn’t even ask because he knows I’m no shut down here, because everybody wants to give you financial goals, they love to say Hey, you know why? Don’T you give to this so hey? Why don’t you do that and she wanted to invest in that or why don’t you and there’s nothing wrong with making a profit or Kelly? I don’t see nothing wrong with a little and then I change the rest of the car, but I’ll see nothing wrong with a little bit of profit, making some money while you’re, because that leads to the lifestyle that you want. You know that you want a lot of times it when I’m giving fine. When people ask about financial stuff, as I work backwards on them I’ll say what would you want to retire? You know: when do you want when you want to start the end work on way back and then that gives me that the goals every year to hit to make that go? You don’t want to retire with this much money in the bank. Then you got up, you got, anyone, retire, went and aftermath phone and then you turn work backwards and you know how much I hate needing to say.

Do you know how much your you’re needing to make you know and that’s the last Workshop that we did when the guy stood up and said how much money should I pay myself? Okay, I’m starting off. You know when you’re around a business. How much I pay myself when I think about how much should I pay myself? I, like my dog, won’t eat a bunch of throwback 80s, Make Your Own lyrics disturbing song and Davila sang it, and I know this because I was a DJ, so I just want to bring that up that. I don’t want anybody else, but I just want to know how much should I pay Myself song trapped in your brain cuz. We know you have a very large had a very large my number similar to brain to go with the massive Cranium. You has a huge wig: is there a song in there that you wish was not in there Madness by The Muse is a great song right now that I can’t get out of my Cranium it just really good. I’M taking it like a bad like a song that you like, that’s like the world’s worst song and I listen to it and I wish I hadn’t have fun now. So I could almost got that song stuck in my head all day, girls here and we love this song. Can we just want to have fun and interesting, wishing and hoping and hoping and praying that song it’s just like stopping and if it was cool, grab a dance that no one wants to watch, but we have to watch because we’re the wedding party, oh yeah, you Know what I’m saying what color coming in my babysitter’s calling sees me bride’s father I’ve got a rash that I need to go. I’Ve got a home camera that I can see if my phone it looks like there’s anything, that’s what I want to make sure we come back, we’re talking more about living, a purpose for life and knowing your F6 gold so important. Those F6 goes or goes through faith, family friendships, witness finances, stay tuned. It’S the Thrive time show on your radio and play Clark. I am a business coach and you have the capacity and it’s nasty to be successful. Pokemon trap Nation. You know you want to get into it. You know you want to here. We go get out those quad skates. Here we go couples-only couples-only black light dance. We are special and pickles dill pickles on sale right now, two candy bars for a Dollar Holler. Yes, big! Shout out to you, but you just want to Roller City, River City still open, but if you just went there to pay your respects to the place that once was the greatest place in Broken Arrow history, Roller City, you remember, and they would never give you those Necklaces and you can take the necklaces, you would break it and it would it would it unleash the glow It’s Magic. I would, I would spend weeks, ask why. How is it possible to go to sleep? I wake up and realize it’s not going anymore and I realize the magic was gone without them breaking these are the people that study of theology in history, his story, and I studied Roller City and that’s how I’ve got to the bottom. You just go. Hunt down that road trip roller skating in a purposeful life in specifically known your F6 goals, not recommend all these goals, you break them into one year goals and reason why I say that is because I don’t know you don’t know, we don’t know how long we’re Going to be alive., We., Really really good friends, all the sudden, we’re Prince Purple Rain Purple Rain, all the sudden. You know, Michael Jackson, you know we’re like manic he’s coming back to this. Is it to God, see him in concert the one guy? I really wanted to see before he passed and I was excited by the last concert. He I mean towards going to do and I’m going to go to admit I was. I was seriously listening to some George Michael and then like the next morning. Gonzo that your fault – and I just people eventually, we all we all die. We don’t know the day, it’s profound. If you’re above the ground, it is so you have said you have to make plans to have some fun. So what are your plans have some fun. This year, my man, what are your plans and what kind of plans do you put on the list now, when you say that’s going to head to the airport, I’m flying to San Diego and I’m going to the Breeders Cup this weekend, which means yeah, so I’m Going to go, that’s what they going to do for fun cuz. I love horse racing, though I have race horses, and so I enjoy the sport and I’m going to go somebody’s. We got a house on the beach house on the beach on the beach beach, hear your guitar Riverdale, the sand, beaches nice. What kind of mine that you would kind of like it’s almost like the ocean except there’s? No water right now, where the border wall prototypes are being set up to being a single. Are you actually going to the border to demonstrate your new wall design?

Cuz, I mean there’s some spectacular design. I can’t I can’t talk about that right now. I can’t that’s it that’s closer than not on that list. Six gossip gossip you’ll get sucked in and if you are somebody who is Sincere, the best thing you can say is you know what they’re not here, so I’m not going to talk about it. Now the only thing is in business, and this is this is where I I wrote this up for the show, because I wanted to T-top for using is, if possible, you don’t want to talk about people when they’re not present, however, assume that this is hard to Do because, when you’re in charge of employees – and let’s say that somebody is being the various playing games doing stuff and you got to fight you know, you got to get your elite team together on the team’s. Maybe you and your wife for are you and your partner or whatever? Sometimes you got to gather all the facts? You know before you act and you got to figure out what’s going on so that it’s okay, I would just say 99 % of the time. If the person who is being discussed is not, there don’t engage in that conversation. However, I understand that there’s no need for the United States of America to go. Tell the caraustar next action in advance and wore them by the one by the way to be transparent. With you guys want to make sure we don’t talk behind your back on the 4th day of the month at 3 p.m. to make sure to transparent with you and we’re taking our spy information, we’re double-dating it by you guys or asking you are you in fact Testing testing missiles over Japan I mean: are you guys, because we want to make sure we would be over Christmas break that down? When do you engage in secret covert soothingness, and when do you not well, I think you’re kind of a little bit. You know we. If you go back to listen to some of the old podcast or somebody podcast, I should say they’re all old cuz they’re, all in the past website of the podcast. You can go back and you can pick up these different shows. But we went over one with you. We talked about all the books that every entrepreneur should read. Should you get the first six and I get a bonus 7 to mine as a business coach was The Art of War. I just like you said you were very kind of cryptic, but you were saying: hey somebody. Then we should talk behind their back. We should make plans without their knowledge. We should talk about them.

It’S a business that that’s that’s the case, that’s what you do and sometimes is a little bit like Warlock, and so when you’re in that mode. When it’s someone is, you know, I’m screwing you exactly exactly what you will or tells about them, then that something that you know you do want to talk about and then investigate, because you never want to make decisions based upon here say you won’t be able to Make decisions based upon that affect 301c? Did you hear about Carol Carol, Carol Carol? I just want you to know I mean. Did you hear about it? I’M testing the waters do not hear about Carol, but well with Carol. B’s. This have anything to do with business. Well, Carol works here, and I just want you to know I’ve heard well, I don’t remember I’d rather I’d rather not talk about Carol’s Carol’s, not here, and then I meant I don’t want to put that in my cranium. My kids, I don’t know about it. You know if it doesn’t, if it doesn’t help me, move the ball further down the field. Why on Earth would I want to take any of my gray matter and fill it with any of that that right there that right there is zero, quick, I’m someone is currently. Downloading the database of our entire business coach customer list that something has my interest. That’S a business! This Is War over right now, let’s, let’s: Okay! Well, let’s investigate, let’s it guy, let’s get it. Got a couple of them, so boom boom boom make make some phone calls and then and then let’s investigate that and that’s good stuff, never find the final on the final one see through a little bit of a Thing – and I just wanted to talk to you and it’s what it was was I heard that Carol is going to be leaving I heard Carol, might you know you know she might be leaving? Maybe I don’t know, I mean talk to Bob about it and it’s just you know. If you have, I mean you know I mean it could be at your home. That’S it that’s an interesting one that happens. It happens a lot of times and always will tell other employees things they shouldn’t like aunt about leaving or maybe try to read recruiting them. You know, so you don’t want to talk about it, but hey. You know. I just walk right up to him. A call to the option to have heard that you’re leaving is this. There’S any truth to that and she’s going to have solutely not absolutely not, and it’s the next exit 257 in honor of the Heinz 57 sauce people.

I want to get to get your take on this cuz you’re at your father, your business coach. Sure. If I go see him and we come back from the break, I want to get your take on this cuz it as a husband as a father as a business coach Moon over 57, good, huge, its don’t commit, don’t over-commit. Two things do not over commit to things, don’t say yes to so many things than your schedule still with obligations to commit to that commitment, but seriously I have a volleyball team. I’D like you to serve on the board of the panel of church and waiting to go on to buy Ball TM. If you can pick up some disease that be great and there’s a fun run on Thursday Boy Scouts were trying to raise the money right now. You bring the oranges to the soccer game on Saturday. Alright, Drive Nation we’re talking today about getting things done and we’re talking about do not over commit to things. Move number 57 do not over commit to things now. I am going to go ahead and get myself in business coach trouble. Other people don’t have to join in my little party my little my little attack myself party. So it’s a special party, I’m attacking myself here – is a deal. I don’t want to go to most things, so I am all about I’m hundred percent committed to going to certain things, but I’m not going to have a schedule. I am not going to have a schedule filled up with going to things that I don’t want to go to use. As an example, I was invited by dr. Z to go to the Steve Martin concert with dr. Z, so I have a filter one. Do I like the event to do I like him going with, if I don’t like the event, but I still do like him going without go to random text. If I likes it, the people making fun yeah, I’m not going, but if it’s a thing where I don’t like the people I’m going with, and I don’t like the thing, how do I decide who I, like I decide who I like based upon? Do I share the values of these people and do I have shared goals? That’S what I do. I share the values and goals. Hockey is a sport that people in Oklahoma are play and they were a former client of ours and I’m glad there’s people who like hockey, but I don’t at all – I don’t like anything about the game, so I’m asked hey your son’s playing on the team. You know: do you want to go to Rogers Arkansas? I run it to the filter. Do I share the values most people on the team are great people, but they are a hundred percent sold out on their kids.

Getting a division 1 School play hockey. I is it just overall big broad statement. I don’t like sports just in general, don’t like them. I like the Patriots, certain anomalies, but I don’t I don’t care. I don’t want to play college soccer coach about hockey. I don’t I don’t care, Let It Go on. My list whatever so that I can you go then it’s like we’re going to Caravan two days before. If you want to get there to watch the other team in Rogers, I got a newer Stadium, we should go, see it and then it says here we’re going to go. Do a a carbo load, a carb load the night before now that you’re not telling the truth, but I’m sure you understand how Nutrition Works. That’S actually not. I move to just sits and record yourself on Pizza Pasta the night before. I think it’s proven to not be a good idea exactly, but it’s still kind of that Mills. Good urban urban legend. If you were the profanity of the concept that won the fact that you people don’t know that car belongs on a thing, two there’s a guy at the game. Who is a screamer every single game I went to he’s like? Are you okay, ZoomCare text to Ralph? He actually went as far as to walk onto the ice to question a call. Last year, that’s dangerous, so I used to go to the games when I had to go – and I put my hoodie on – I took the top left by myself – have a great time. Good conversation myself as soon as the game’s over I leave work to go to Phoenix Airport Phoenix, I’m not going to be there, and I think I would have accepted is okay. That’S fine! But there’s people who didn’t want you there right now. Champions of hockey like to play at the next level, I hope he doesn’t put weights on making up rules like I send me know whenever they blow the whistle. That means keep playing over committed them over really over signed up for things that over committed during all these boards. These Church of answer and the big networking and of the after-hours networking, where there’s one every single night, your Association for your profession, help this person detangle themselves from the cobwebs of over-commitment. I have a little ranch, someone to email me, the info at 3:15. Com and tell me the name of the individual who started who who, who made baby showers and weddings showers in the couples showers that for bernama Durant Lil Bit about that. I’M glad that that is the domain of women, not men, that’s not men. We are not supposed to show up and play. Can you put the diaper on the baby doll game hate Eric? Did you did you bring the carrots I forgot, who started that? I don’t know if anybody out there in Thrive. Lynn know she started that I wanted to know who it is you’re. One of those are things you never had to count on is a guy. Now you got this thing at this awkwardness. If you know your significant other saying hey, where are the petifores she’s having a couple wedding shower? And you know all the girls are bringing back in there. Man and you know you do want to go, buy one more thing you got to fight through now, but you know you got to learn how to say. No you’ve got to be a powerful person. You don’t make all these silly excuses up. You just look at them and say I don’t want to do that or something just so it just kind of just takes the weight off your shoulders. It’S Justin, lightning, it’s it’s just refreshing! It takes a lot of people. You were just told from a young age. I was on hurt your feelings.

You know you got ta feeling you’re being honest with me like what they say when you break up with someone your best just to do it don’t go some. Don’T just like you know. All the sudden you’re not available. You know it’s okay, to think what I’m trying to say is be a powerful business coach person. If you don’t want to do it. For those reasons you just laid out beautifully play, I might add: if you don’t want to do it, then don’t do it. The worst thing you can do is be stuck at a you know, your friends, kindergarten, graduation of their kid, going to the Metro, Christian and there’s about 25 kids in the class, and I was thinking about taking myself. I said man, you know, I bet you all. These kids have a birthday most likely, you know all of them have a date of birth or other. What time they leave a letter really celebrated in the birthday, and we have to go to each one of them and I’ll be at 27 birthday. I’M not. Can I start working out that way that feeling every week and shaking right now touch them until I can get me off the crazy train, Diana quick question: what was the event that you went to in your life? You got to have one come on now. You got me thinking one. I got this if I could shoot myself, I would or if I could injure myself to get it to get out of here I’ll be. I think I would do it. What was it, what the top ones anytime for me that I travel in a car anywhere, I’m done at what you’re such a horrible driver, horrible driver, but if you’re driving I get motion sickness. So we decided to go to Colorado and I love what you got there, but I’m like I can’t do this right, getting like, like not hives, but just I’m getting all worked out, I’m going to pay all that we’ve got, it turned back. You know, what’s going to happen, dr. Evil’s, going to come out, you don’t want you don’t want to hear about the trip now, I’m getting motion sickness now we’re into Colorado, winding roads and I’m afraid of heights, I’m just afraid of General Store. We went through mountain passes in a normal person. He’S driving a normal speed was like 45 miles, an adult guardrails up those things that’s going on in his eyes. Budget cuts open in Colorado survive man. It was the worst thing ever in so I I I had my wife.

We pulled over at a place where they serve adult beverages and I went ahead and I did what I had to do. A good carb loaded. I loaded up and I fell asleep in a business coach slumber in the back. It was like what is wrong with it. Why does he have to go to the bathroom every 30 minutes, but it’s like I can have a bottle of all I’m saying is if you’re listening to this show right now you have to be a powerful person. You only live one time and you’ve got to learn to say no chat, Bazaar that you’ve been saying. No to the you said, that’s it I’m drawing the line going to be on the tattoo of the week Club graduations for somebody. That’S not my kid. My cousin’s graduation out of Broken Arrow 1900 kids, graduating shoot me. It was like three and a half hours at at the Mabee Center of here, and I was just the team. I need to pay them when they announce his kids name. Freak out. You just go for me and I’ll stay with me. Did you hear me, did you hear me answer huge Arena can’t even see who it is? It’S smiling as we can help you can serve you for tools. We have an unbelievable library of entrepreneurial tools. We can’t help you if you don’t go to thrive time. Show. Com Thrive time show. What’S on it, there’s four there’s for Incredible: 2 weeks. When we have an online school, we have the podcast. We have one-on-one business coaching and you can buy your tickets for our in-person Workshop search for incredible tools to help you, but the sea without application is meaningless. It is here on the on the incredible Thrive time show tonight you want to do you want to be Rocky and run up them, steps their Hands, Held High and be victorious with fist full of cash to get the pistol the cash right here we go tonight.


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