Effectively Using Storytelling in Business | Using Humor to Win Friends and Influence People (Part 3)

Show Notes

Clay and Dr. Z breakdown how to effectively tell stories to make any office environment lighter and place where people actually enjoy coming to work.

  • Stories
    1. DEFINITION – Story – “An account of imaginary or real people and events told for entertainment.”
    2. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” – Daniel Goleman (Daniel Goleman is an author and science journalist. For twelve years, he wrote for The New York Times, reporting on the brain and behavioral sciences.)
    3. AMPLE EXAMPLE – Warren Buffett – Dale Carnegie video – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7gXaPY524I
    4. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “A recent survey stated that the average person’s greatest fear is having to give a speech in public. Somehow this ranked even higher than death which was third on the list. So, you’re telling me that at a funeral, most people would rather be the guy in the coffin than have to stand up and give a eulogy.” – Jerry Seinfeld (An American stand-up comedian, actor, writer, producer, and director. He is widely known for playing himself in the sitcom Seinfeld, which he created and wrote with Larry David. As a stand-up comedian, Seinfeld specializes in observational comedy; in 2005, Comedy Central named Seinfeld the “12th Greatest Stand-up Comedian of All Time. He is the creator and host of the web series Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee.)
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Attend the world’s best business coach workshop, led by america’s number one business coach for free by subscribing on itunes and leaving us an objective review, claim your tickets by emailing his group that you didn’t and your contact information to cancel at drivetime show.Com, alright trap. Nation. Welcome back to the conversation is the front time show on your radio. Now this today is a show that I know is going to free somebody from the lid I call this the law of the lid. It’s been written about. John maxwell has written about this idea that this phenomenon I’ve read so many books that talk about this. What I’m going to do is I’m going to put this chap on the e to show notes here. This is the the notable quotable hear from daniel goleman, they might say who’s daniel coleman clinical psychologist, the new york times bestselling author, the guy who wrote a book called emotional intelligence, and this guy is devoted over 30 years of his life to z, studying people that get really far ahead in life and asking what is the difference in there an end in the end, the best business coach personality that he persona 3 persona, that they choose to bring to life. So it’s not. What are there known variables? It’s what if they chosen to bring example and chip I want to put this on the show notes:i want to put the youtube link to it. To this would be warren buffett, dale carnegie’s. He can find it go to youtube, search for warren buffett to dale carnegie service example.

Warren buffett wrote a book called the snowball. It’s the only authorized biographies ever. Seuss interview in the book he sat down for weeks. The only time he’s ever done an authorized interview and if I did that and he starts off and he lets the list billets, the reader know he says I’m going to tell you how my life is and there’s many things in my life that you won’t agree with many things that you will but I would just ask. You judge me, based on my results and I’m, just going to give us we sit down and he gives you the the perspective. One thinks he says is that he was super duper crazy, nervous to speak to people which makes it hard to raise money, because everyone who wants to invest in uz check it out. They don’t want to invest in you just because you sent an email and there is at each moment for a lot of entrepreneurs out there. You can just email, somebody, your your your best business coach slideshow and raise investment capital. So he decides he’s 21 22 he’s really not making any progress in getting investors, but he knows how to beat the market soon as he hears his pitch. He says if you invest in my fund, I will beat the market, so the markets growing at a 6% rate, I’ll beat it if I beat it. I want half of the winds above the market rate, so you’re investing in me, I’m going to keep half or whatever and they go half it’s pretty rich buddy. It’s over time. He got up and dressed as stainable model that worked, but didn’t figure out the pitch.

That would work if they got rejected a lot right, but he was getting rejected at first. Why can’t I mean he was not a best business coach likeable guy and he would just tell people throw your question is foolish? You don’t understand how did you just say school of public speaking, and he said after the class he was such a changed person that he immediately took down his diploma from college off the wall and you put the dale carnegie certificate up there in just a couple weeks. Then he learned his entirety of college and I know it on video for him to explain the dale carnegie institute class. That course, on how to win, friends and influence people changed his life, but he talks to me:i worry about what it would have happened with my career. If I did not go to the deal card against it, if I did not know how to be likeable and one of the things that warren buffett’s known for now is he has a really dry sense of humor that we eve’s the tension. Imagine that do they have these berkshire hathaway rally’s, where he and everyone travel to omaha and he gets up there and he reads his annual report.

When you read the report, see there’s been here for the economy has grown, and so some his big bets haven’t won as much as they normally do. He’ll get up there and he’ll make it funny when people will laugh as opposed to 1/2 inch, the you know, but if he didn’t have that skill-set he would not have gotten to where he is today. So there’s none of a cord of wood from daniel, goleman and chuck. Can you read this best business coach I could? If we are at story, if your emotional abilities aren’t in hand if you don’t have self-awareness, if you’re not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far. So let me explain to you the thing I’ve had to learn to shut my car. How to highlight this. This is been my biggest thing. I had to learn empathy real fast, because I was fearless when making cold calls, but I couldn’t understand what the other person couldn’t see. Why what I was saying was it’s a great deal so then, once I have learned to have and I would call extreme like almost way too much empathy to see as I’ve gotten older I’ve had to learn not to have empathy for everybody or reserved occasions, but I’m just telling you this.

If you are listening right now and you’re going, I just can’t seem to get promoted, but you have more technical skill that everybody at work. It’s probably a sign z that you need to work on your emotional skills right up there, but your eq much does your intelligence quotient. Your intelligence relative to your age is very high, but you’re emotional quotient relate to relate to others is pretty low, so here is where we get into today’s top. It were talking about how to use hue. Nz humor I have discovered, isn’t on believably, powerful to icing people, make funerals funny I’ve seen people make awkward moments funny I’ve, seen people make rough situations palatable, and it’s like to laugh or cry and I think you have a unique ability to not lament. You know to not mourn over a difficult situation and I think things that people take people months to get over. You get over 90 days to get over something like 9 minutes, and this is one of the super skills. He’ll look at it. He’ll take the data in he’ll. Look at it and I would say the maximum now and I didn’t know he was younger guy. You know my best business coach wife work with you, I didn’t know you when you were 38 years old. You know, but I want you now tonight. I bet you, the maximum I’ve ever seen it take z to recover from such, as probably 90 seconds have watched you. It looks like a tank. You take the shot. Turn, the turret I watch you, the turret is now turned, and sometimes you have to unload a a a canon of humor. Yes, and it’s almost like a quarter of a tank turning down, then you expect the guy to shoot off a missile to blow up the situation, but instead he shoots out a flag.

That says:surprise people off guard. How do you do? How do you learn to do that? Well, i, think about times in life, the more mature you get, the more wisdom. Hopefully you get in your cranium and that wisdom. Let you know that the way you dealt with it maybe 20 years ago with firing. The bullet was not the best way to deal with it and I got a few concepts in my life. You know your lover, not a fighter where you have had a high water mark of a lot of bad things happen, and then you realize it. When something happens, it’s really in the big scheme of life, not that big a deal. If you don’t make it a big deal. You know you there’s enough mountains out there. You have to take her to the mole hill and turn it to get on the ground and look at it a different angle that almost look like a mountain I feel like I’m just right to brag on you, and this is a good teaching. Is it stored in one that you’re really good at is sharing stories so before I give you an opportunity to share a funny story with a listener’s out there. I would like to share a story of you having a great best business coach disposition, the time it didn’t make sense, the man cave oklahoma tornadoes, and so were there at the man cave and you’re, watching that that I don’t give her me to oklahoma. You haven’t seen this. It’s like this ominous, almost a green colored, sky, green and gray, and it’s not hot or cold, but there’s no air movement in all of all the animals are freaked out this thing’s, probably going to hit the auction I already said:it’s probably hit the auction. It’s pretty close. It sits on the tv, actually gone into your man and your house, and you grab me a glass of boxed wine because I drink of the feminine varieties.

It was like a riesling or something after ridiculing me for not getting a man beverage. Then we go back in the man cave and we can only drink so many cosmopolitan’s and sweet wines. You know before I want to call you out phone number where you going and then you pulled it up on the tv yep and you’re like i. Remember this that takes headed for the auction, so I got you a prudent reaction would have been if you would have. If you would have said clay, I’m going to go, streaking I would have accepted. That is a normal response. Knowing that you have thousands of cars that could be destroyed, the concrete jungle to be completely destroyed by the store natick activity was like an f3 f4 a little thing. It was predicted to be a big best business coach kahuna and at the time where you could be freaking out, I’m I’m thinking, I didn’t ask because I want to get away at this point and what’s he going to do what you gotta do and you pick up the phone if you called monte or whatever, and yet you made a plan and i. Remember just thinking I didn’t ask you like what you think if I’m already going I wonder what he’s going to do, cuz I was expecting any point for a freak out to happen. He’s some in thor the god of thunder, but you, but you continue just texting, making the calls making the plans making the preparation talking to the right folks and that calm, demeanor I know below the service. Like a duck, you had to be paddling. You had to be thinking that when other people are losing their heads were talking about using humor i. Remember the comment you made to me, but you said something to the exact wording, but it’s really funny cuz I was like, so are you good and you’re like well? At least it’s just a tornado or something like that? It’s just a tornado and I was like weird tension, but you just made it light.

It listen to tornado a glass of wine, okay, but there’s two things 1. It hadn’t happened right. So why is been any freak out energy on something that may not happen? We was going to happen. I would just so freaked out. I just want to go to work that would be gone. I just could be so upset about that they look at that. They look at the situation and then they get really upset about it and I said well as that happened and they’re like well. No, but it’s give me the false evidence always appeared so real. I, just i, just I just brought it out I just ride out there with the fuel wagon and I just get crazy and pretty soon I just end up alone in the closet crying number to. If it does happen right, if it does happen, then you just going to go to the steps when you do to fix it. You know how bad is the damage, what got damaged, get the crew out there take a look at it. What car did you give? You know what is the building damage? I mean you’re like okay. What do we need to do now that we can have a best business coach sale next friday you bro I would have called you from messick roofing right away. You hell is about to be screwing around with a new company that maybe doesn’t have their stuff together. You want to go within oklahoma-based company. That’s been doing business since 1960 to see it’s a big auction. You want to mess around with some new startup. You know how to stop a quality service. What’s the phone number, what’s the website to pretend like somebody, one of our listeners has a little bit of damage. They want to get a quote. Let’s, let’s pretend that the scenario during these april showers, if you find a little raindrop, dripping into your kitchen drain, to drop it off and on my head, if you got, you didn’t pick up the phone put it next to your head and call 918-747-7141.

If you go to mexico from the day you get a free Quote:i’ll give you a free copy of my book, while supplies last state to claim your tickets to the drive time show today and erected business workshop for free. All you have to do is to subscribe to the drive time, show on itunes, leaving injected review and send as confirmation and input drivetime show.Com to claim your star international star registry. We can’t help you all right is the drive time show on your radio when we’re trying to do today is trying to release the tension for somebody out there, because, if you’re, a business owner-and you are focused on holding your team accountable, the amount of human combat that you’re going to experience for sure is insurmountable. Without the superpower called humor I’m telling you you are going when you hold people accountable, the amount of human kombat that you’re going to run into is absolutely insurmountable. If people do not like you in one way to relieve the tension, to create a stress, free workplace is using this thing called a story, and so brian arnold are voice of choice. Going to read us the definition of what a story is the doctor’s he’s going to give us a story there we go. Was that smeagol wow. That is pretty. Can you say my precious just to top it all russell, that’s disturbing., hotspot storytime, a kid big family, not a lot of money. There was a holiday that came around once a year. There was a big holiday, no, not a valentine halloween. Can you imagine the best business coach holiday to where I broke it like me to just walk up to someone’s door? I, don’t even know knock on it and they’re going to give me candy, #winning america, the lord today somehow or another one you’re, the stars and moon aligned and I was going to escort the two hottest chicks in the neighborhood I eat into the schools.

In my humble opinion, I want to the last name to protect the innocent. How you doing since you’re, so hot I’ll send you over here. You can stand right. They’ll, give you a six inch separation. You might stop I’d, be my dad’s. Will trench coat I put black on my face and I’m a bum. Yet once again you know I moved right. Sister and my brother is already you left the house beforehand to go, do trick or treating so I was you know. I was i, was trying pretty tall I mean i. Was you know two, ladies man too late eastside the gas light lights in the middle, the yard, so you’d be walking out of light into shadow out of your own. You can just ignore the door I shut, my house to house right. So it when is dark places a guy jumps out and he has on a stocking panty panty hose over his face and he grabs when the girls can your penis I brought them to make the best for dinner, break right now, grab it and we start spinning he’s trying to take it away, I’m trying to take away I’m trying to protect her candy. You spin me right round right round baby right round like that. We’re spending part back onto the best business coach face and then part of it. I don’t see the face and part of it. I see the face part of it go to bed. Then I realize it’s. My older brother, oh i, don’t like eric eric is just freezes because it would recognize that he doesn’t recognize me cuz. He didn’t see me I just dropped it. This panic attacks off running well I’m kind of embarrassed to see my brother right as we pick up the sack I make sure it was okay and I’ve saved the day, and you don’t answer now I’m eating now.

Finally, you know what we’re done:i get home and the door knock on the door and they’re standing at the door is a gentleman with a young girl. Crying oh I might just can’t be good and he’s like is your mom. Here. Is your parents here? That’s it mom, so I guess they figured out that best business coach eric had stolen her candy and they came to our house to get retribution to settle out of court. As you might say, to my mom gave them you, we were in the living room. Gettin up trading. Do all the things you do. The candy to my mom gave them all the candy too much game. Hi candy I mean it was really in a ridiculous amount of candy. Your mom went to cause an insulin spike. Where do I tell that story before then, what you do, what you do. Go door-to-door babies door, the door, and that just shows you a little something about your persistence, my friend, so there you go you’re the kind of guy who you could go out there with two. Ladies get the candy and candy taken, go back out again and i. Think I think that the idea of stories is, you can use a story to demonstrate a point like persistence and people will forget the principal but the remember the story and then, when they encounter a life problem, then remember the story:just go back out and get more candy. That’s the thing about 90 seconds and he was over it. I was like you know it won’t. That decision was made that candy was gone. No chuck. Could you read us a best business coach story that jerry seinfeld wrote in his book called sign language? My friend recent survey stated that the average person’s greatest fear is having to give a speech in public. Somehow this rank even higher than death, which was third on the list.

.0So you’re telling me that a funeral at a funeral most people would rather be the guy in the coffin then have to stand up and give a eulogy and see that’s his like observation was right. He does and he gives observations over and over and over to where you realize, like that’s his stick and he does observational stories and that’s what that made. The seinfeld show so great where they were stories about seemingly meaningless circumstances like stealing cable in an entire show about stealing cable waiting at a chinese restaurant waiting in the chinese in all I’m saying is that he could share these stories that could communicate and connect with audiences and he became the top best business coach tv personality and there was such a demand for jerry seinfeld, the he went on to make millions and millions and millions, but if he just got up there and just stated facts and didn’t, have the ability to share stories based on deep observation, we wouldn’t know his name but chop. There’s one company that we now know that I’m about to hawaii because they are proud sponsors on this glorious show. His name is paul who’d, who’d who’d. Why are you saying at that point? It’s huda, tv I know paul hood rat hood, cpas. Com! You got to check these guys out there doing an offer. Where are you going to sit down for an hour with those guys and go over your strategy with them and get a free copy of warren buffett books? No ball only authorized biography, warren buffett ever put out their babies. You get a free copy of the book, an hour of one-on-one time with a cpa we’re going to do. Is there going to help you become proactive with your finances, as opposed to being reactive with your fine right, but again I would go. I was just today. I would do what I would go to hood cps.Com during the break and I would claim your free copy of warren buffett’s book snowball know if I prefer to use a best business coach telephone. What number can I reach these guys at 918-747-7000 again, 918-747-7000 games.Com

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