How to Balance Family, Life and Business

Show Notes

Are you struggling to find the right balance in your life with your family and business? Vanessa Clark (Clay Clark’s wife and life coach) teaches how you can have success with both your marriage and your business.

Show Notes – Marshall Morris is looking for a brunette nurse or teacher who can sing or dance and who is politically right of center.

  • Get clear on your priorities. You will never be able to balance, or transition from different seasons to an ultimate place of balance if you don’t know what your priorities are.
    1. DEFINITION MAGICIAN – Priority – A thing that is regarded as more important than another or the right to take precedence or to proceed before others.
    2. AMPLE EXAMPLE: Vanessa Clark – “My family is my #1 priority after God.” – Vanessa Clark
    3. AMPLE EXAMPLE: Clay Clark – “My family is my #1 priority after God. Then I’m focused on work, then fitness, then friendship and then finally fun.” – Clay Clark
      1. Faith
      2. Family
      3. Finances
      4. Fitness
      5. Friendship
      6. Fun
      7. Note:
        1. Chamber Events
        2. Gathering Places
        3. TV
        4. Social Media
        5. Most Activities Are Not On This List
    4. Business is here to serve the family – not the other way around
      1. Not here for job creation
      2. Not here for employees
      3. Not here for the community
      4. Not here for accolades
    5. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “The secret of your success is determined by your daily agenda (calendar).” – John Maxwell (The best-selling author of The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership)
    6. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? – Mark 8:36 (The Bible)
  • If priorities are straight all the following will benefit:
  • NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” – Stephen Covey (An American educator, author, businessman, and keynote speaker. His most popular book is The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. His other books include First Things First, Principle-Centered Leadership, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families, The 8th Habit, and The Leader In Me — How Schools and Parents Around the World Are Inspiring Greatness, One Child at a Time.)
    1. Your Family
    2. Your Business
    3. Your Employees
    4. Your Community
  • If your priorities are not straight, you will begin to have problems in the following areas:
    NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “No matter how carefully you plan your goals they will never be more than pipe dreams unless you pursue them with gusto.” – W. Clement Stone (In 1919, Stone built the Combined Insurance Company of America, which provided both accident and health insurance coverage; by 1930, he had over 1000 agents selling insurance for him across the United States. By 1979, his insurance company exceeded $1 billion in assets.)
    1. Faith
    2. Family
    3. Finances
    4. Fitness
    5. Friendships
    6. Fun
  • What does operating in the correct priorities look like?
      1. Dr. Gottman Study
      2. MYSTIC STATISTIC – Six years study. At end of 6 years many couples had divorced. The couples that stayed married were much better at one thing – Turn Towards Instead of Away during a “bid”
        1. “A “bid” is any attempt from one partner to another for attention, affirmation, affection, or any other positive connection. Bids show up in simple ways, a smile or wink, and more complex ways, like a request for advice or help. In general, women make more bids than men, but in the healthiest relationships, both partners are comfortable making all kinds of bids.” – Dr. Gottman
        2. Couples that had stayed married turned towards one another 86% of the time. Couples that had divorced averaged only 33% of the time. The secret is turning towards.
      3. Time – schedule
        1. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “You either pay now or pay later with just about every decision you make about where and how you spend your time.” – Lee Cockerell (Former Executive Vice President of Walt Disney World Resorts)
        2. What is important to your family?
          1. Dinners?
          2. Evenings?
          3. Weekends?
          4. Children’s events?
          5. Etc..
      4. Affection
        1. Be intentional
        2. Date your spouse
        3. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” – Ephesians 5:25
      5. Goals
        1. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Control your future, your destiny. What you think about comes about. By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands – your own.” – Mark Victor Hansen (An American inspirational and motivational speaker, trainer and author. He is best known as the founder and co-creator of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” book series)
        2. Your personal goals should align with families (should benefit & not hurt family)
          1. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.” – Brian Tracy (New York Times Best-selling author)
        3. Your spouse and you get aligned to help each other reach each other’s goals


  • Each spouse should pour time, love and attention into each other with greater effort than other pursuits. When you do this all other interests will grow and benefit from the stability and blessing of your relationship.
    1. Kids
    2. Business
    3. Friendships
    4. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.” – Pablo Picasso (A Spanish painter, sculptor, printmaker, ceramicist, stage designer, poet and playwright who spent most of his adult life in France. Regarded as one of the most influential artists of the 20th century.)
  • Your spouse is the goal. All other aspects of your life will benefit and grow from this solid foundation. Without this solid foundation, everything is on shaky ground.
    1. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “You can’t get much done in life if you only work on the days when you feel good.” – Jerry West (NBA Hall of Fame Basketball Player who played in 9 NBA Finals and whose silhouette was turned into the NBA logo. He was the legendary General Manager of the Los Angeles Lakers who lead the team to 6 championship rings.)
    2. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “My wife is the goal.” – Clay Clark
  1. ACTION ITEM – Define your goals for the following areas:
    1. Faith
    2. Family
    3. Finances
    4. Fitness
    5. Friendship
    6. Fun
  1. ACTION ITEM – Schedule the following items into your schedule:
    1. Faith
    2. Family
    3. Finances
    4. Fitness
    5. Friendship
    6. Fun

Answering Joseph’s Question – How to Recruit New People Without Upsetting Your Current Team

“I heard of you guys on your Podcast about 3 weeks ago, and I’ve been listening on my commutes ever since.  I love the show! How to start my weekly hiring meeting without upsetting my current team. I’m in the auto body repair industry and it can be very difficult to replace a team member (lack of candidates). Which I know is what makes it all the more important to get started, but I’m struggling a little.” – Joseph W


  • Group interview
  • Tell the team you are expanding and growing
  • Have the good people shadow yu
  • FIre when ready

Lamp Posts in the Fog – The Process of Starting a Business

“My name is Emilien and I am 17, this summer I plan to start a business on my own but I fear my path is too complicated for a startup and I honestly don’t know where to start. Do I take everything one at a time? Or do I start from the very beginning?  Worriedly, a listener.” – Emilien T –


  1. Book your Thrivetime Show Workshop ticket

Shout Outs – “I heard about your book on the Thrivetime show podcast! Absolutely love the show and listen regularly!!”

“I started a professional home organizing business about 3 weeks ago now. I have a few appointments scheduled in the weeks to come from my sphere of influence, but in order to expand I’m thinking about making cold calls. I plan to call people who have their home on the market and are planning on moving soon. I am hoping to book appointments to help with either staging and organizing their home to help it sell quickly OR for moving services (packing their house or unpacking their home after they move).
My question is: What are the best things to say over the phone to establish rapport quickly and book appointments? I plan to offer a free 1 hour consultation, but most in my business also do this. I’m trying to find my purple cow and a script to help convert these cold calls into clients.” – Laura C (Last name needed please)

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” – Conrad Hilton (The founder of the Hilton Hotel Empire)

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” – Walt Disney (The co-founder of The Disney Empire who lost it all twice in route to building Disney)

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “An entrepreneur is someone who will jump off a cliff and assemble an airplane on the way down.” – Reid Hoffman (An early member of the original PayPal team and the founder of Linkedin)


  1. Attend a workshop and we’ll show how all of the pieces of the puzzle connect.
  2. Create a website for your company
  3. Create your marketing materials
  4. Attempt to sell your product or service to at least 15 people.
  5. Document what works into a workflow.
  6. Attend a workshop and we’ll show you the force.


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