Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor

Show Notes

Clay breaks down Laws of Power #16 and 17 and observed by best-selling author Robert Greene in his best-selling book, The 48 Laws of Power..  

Law 16: Use absence to increase respect and honor.

  1. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Truly I tell you,” he continued, “no prophet is accepted in his hometown.” – Luke 4:24
  2. “What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul?” – Matthew 16:26
  3. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his own town, among his relatives and in his own home.” – Mark 6:4
  4. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Familiarity breeds contempt. How accurate that is. The reason we hold the truth in such respect is that we have so little opportunity to get familiar with it.” – Mark Twain (Best-selling author of the Adventures of Tom Sawyer, the Adventures of Huckleberry Finn and The Great American Novel)

San Antonio Spurs Example –

  1. Tim Duncan – Born 1976
  2. David Robinson – Born 1966
    1. When the Spurs drafted Tim Duncan, David purposely handed off the leadership role to the younger Tim Duncan because he has character and knows what it means to be on a team.

Law 17: Keep others in suspended terror: cultivate an air of unpredictability.

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NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.” – Robert Greene

Good use of the law

  1. Walk-around management
  2. Spot inspections of scaling operations

People behaving badly

  1. People showing up with a super nice car and new house out of the blue who then try to convince you that they just made millions through a new pyramid scheme.


  • Most employees (humans) steal (are not good people) from the workplace and most do so repeatedly.


    1. The U.S. Chamber of Commerce estimates that 75% of employees steal from the workplace and that most do so repeatedly. –  

85 Percent of Job Applicants Lie on Resumes. Here’s How to Spot a Dishonest Candidate –

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Audio Transcription

Attend the world’s best business workshop, led by america’s number one best business coach for free by subscribing on itunes and leaving us an objective review, claim your tickets by emailing his group that you didn’t, and your contact information to cancel at drivetime show.Com rubbish. Most back to the drive time show on your radio and podcast download. We’ve had many people have asked me over the years:hey dude! Why have you? Why did you read laws of power like why and I said, because I am trying to vaccinate myself against people that would do anything anything to become successful. I just want to vaccinate myself. Chapel gets people that are willing to do anything to become things. Are people out there that are willing to do anything it takes to become successful. Thing is i, believe that to gain the world and lose your soul is not a good move. It’s bad move, but there’s people that did our our toenails at educators on this next law of power, from 48 laws of power, robert, greene, 48, laws of power law, 16 use absence to increase, respect and honor. Can you read that jen but kind of slower and more profoundly, so we can really marinate on exit it’s kind of a deep by dia lost 16 years. What you want to do use absence to increase, respect and honor that encourage you to consult your bible and it’s matthew. 16:26 took matthew 16:26, the specific verse presets.

What good will it be for someone to gain the world yet forfeit their soul? Or what can you? What can anyone give in exchange for their salt? So luke 4:24 from the bible says truly I tell you he continued. No profit is accepted in his own town and you might say why don’t like the bible at all, okay, well, I got one more bible, verse, mark 6 more says: jesus said to them. A prophet is not without honor, except in his own town, among his relatives and in his own home. A prophet is not without honor, except and his own town. Among his relatives and his thing about this super duper duper why they could be the ceo of a massive company. They could be the best business coach in the world. They could be phenomenal actor at their whatever their crap is. It could be known as the best but in their own home people disrespect, and why is that marshall? Why is because of the air of familiarity? They’ve seen this person often times enough and they’ve, seen them, maybe outside of show time where they’ve seen them in a capacity where they aren’t the expert. This is why transitioning from long old time, friends and that getting them to see you in a new position or a new career new executive status, it’s never going to happen. So you can’t be a profit from your hometown.

You can’t be a profit for those that you see the most frequently and when you limit the supply, when you limit the supply of your resource of time in your ability to spend time with people, it increases demand in when you have a high demand, you’re going to be seen as a better expert you’re going to be seen as a prophet you’re going to be able to be more effective with your job to. Let me give you an example of a visiting to argue with marsh by one point point this out. He said that if you have been around friends-and now you get a pointed to a position of senior leadership, you’re never going to be respected, I would say unless you’re right 99% of the time. Unless your friends choose to respect you, that’s the only time that I can think of in my life, where I’ve seen it on a big scale. This happened to moments. There’s two moment moment number one was when I was interviewing the best business coach client david robinson and was asking david what it was like to play with tim duncan, because tim duncan was tim, duncan tim, duncan, nba, hall of fame basketball player. He was born in 1976, so she was born in 1976 and david. Robinson was born in 1965, which means that david robinson was 11 years older than who in duncan right. So what happened was is that the the spurs decided to draft tim duncan now look at david robinson the year that they drafted tim duncan. He is jacked, he’s physically impressive and he’s putting up like 27 points. A game I mean this guy is just physically imposing. He was I mean the guy is just ridiculously great shape. Thank and they got there. He was jacked me, but don’t it look at this guy? He was known as being like the most physically fit athletes. I mean this guy was just on fire, so they go out there and they draft tim, duncan and so tim duncan is a center david robinson to center. So the for the season starts. David robinson call the team meeting and points out, hey guys, moving forward I’m going to no longer be the captain of a team. The captain of the team is going to be tim duncan, so I went to the offense running through him. We could have got bitter that hey I’m at I’m in the prime of my career and you’re, not running the offense through here in the prime of my career and the leadership of the spurs team, which I’ve committed to has just drafted myra myra, my heir apparent, to my replacement, but rather than becoming bitter about it. She recognized that for the greater good of the best business coach organization he needed to defer to somebody else, he needed to have a he need to go from position number one of the team is the captain to position number to, and that was david robinson that accept call donner right.

There I mean that’s, that’s called that’s just awesome and so I just in business i, don’t see it very much. The other example I can think of is the relationship of doctors. He has with the monte or the over the auto auction auction. Last friday. Yes, was it fun to see what was going on? He describe the visual splendor of the auto auction, for people have not have not seen the z66 auto auction yeah, it’s anywhere from 5 to 7 full action going on. At the same time, in one building and I talked to sydney out there at monty’s wife, and she said they were pushing 850 cars through that thing about 3 hours and it’s just non-stop go go, go, go, go everything is so clean. They wash all those cars before the auction. That morning was he there. Z is friends with monty somad, he runs. The auto auction is definitely a friend of zz. Consider him to be a friend. She speaks highly of him when he’s not present, but you’ve been to the auto auction. How many times now. I’ve been up there twice and the first time you were, there was either he showed up about 3 hours into it for maybe an hour, and this last one. He wasn’t that wasn’t there at all. Did you notice it still work without him being there? It works really really well without to be there and guess what chicken butt wasn’t even there either. So they had the manager below them running the whole thing and it went off without a hitch was awesome, but does he understand this concept? So what he does is he has a lot of businesses and he doesn’t go to the very often one because he’s out there enjoying his time freedom, but also he understands this this this principle that familiarity breeds contempt, mark twain he wants rodger marshall familiarity, breeds best business coach contempt. How accurate that is. The reason we hold truth in such respect is because we have so little opportunity to get familiar with marshall wowwee whole truth and such respect. We don’t get to see it very much when is that mean what you have to do is when you’re going to be involved in a business in the time that you’re there be productive, be efficient in when you’re finished, producing or creating the value you got to leave you got to leave because that familiarity, the more you become familiar with people, the last that they will respect you overtime.

That is profound to be fine, if you find yourself being disrespected in your own business right now, it’s probably because you’re not using absence to increase the respect and honor that the 48 laws of power I do agree with no, we come back will be breaking out the next law of power, which is one that will see if you agree with this law of power, you are now entering the dojo mojo and the thrive time show kick it. Yes, you can can I kick it? Yes, you can can I kick it? Yes, you can can i. Guess you can this is click clock on the mic and can topical castano, pinochet and I’m focused on the mission beach the skills and get to the plans broadcasted from advance to the left, to the portland dance, to see, it, and I’ll be to see her yes, and that would stick it like that man damn time show on wor radio or break it down the 48 laws of power, so that you can be aware of moves that are being used in the world of business in the game of life to gain a massive amount of power, not as 48 laws of power and I would say of about of the 48 laws I probably agree with 25 of them because they are in the bible. They are there parallel with the bible. They don’t disagree with what I believe to be the irrefutable word of god, the bible any of the laws that I disagree with I’m, going to tell you that I do and I’m going to break it down. How these that moves are used against you, I’m trying to vaccinate you against the 48 laws of power, so you can never get taken advantage of before we before we do that. I want to comment shop. I mean your mic over. There is typically me a lot of campy camp can I can get kind of swampy musky, yeah, musky, elon, musk kind of way, but he’s kind of an on elon musk, an excellent best business coach way. You always look so clean. Why is your mic is so clean? My man we stay busy and we do a lot of recording. We make a lot of contents were always in your things. Like you said you little grimy as we started, working with classic janitorial. Okay could have called anybody. In fact, we worked with other people in the past, but we decided we decided classic +671-204-667-1204 six two again because then we called this number. What was the number that you called again? That was a good part. Tell me the number 918-671-2046 and the cool thing is how you can also reach him on their website at the classic clean.,, not really giving away free floor, care, service initial floor, care service to new customers. Give you a deep clean on, though high traffic carpet, new car smell, new car filled a new car or not feel freshly clean. You can come in your business barefoot. If you want it’s going to feel great new tagline for the folks at classic classic janitorial services, so good. It feels like the colon cleanse for your office. That’s a very classic janitorial service. Make your office and swap out. This is lost. 17 keep others in terror suspended terror cultivate an error of unpredictability read.

Can you read from the book 48 laws of power humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see, familiarity and other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control turn the tables be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency for breakfast will keep them off balance and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Take it to an extreme. The strategy can intimidate and terrorize rule I like this rule lot. This is my favorite boss, I love his law, so I will begin telling you my justification for this loss. Okay. People are always trying to screw you. Competitors are always trying to screw. It always happens. Of course employees not all, but 75% of employees are trying to steal from you. Okay, so, according to the us chamber, will put that on the show note, 5% of employees are trying to steal from you best business coach marshall, according to ink magazine well, over 80% of people are lying on their resume c5, and so you want to not let people know what you’re doing, because if you do, they will use that against you. So this is a a fun fun. Fun example for you that I love the story. I know it’s far as much as it is awesome. It’s a little thing called the six-day war on june, 5th, okay, so june 4th june, 8th of june, 2nd, actually 1967, israeli military, send a message to cascading message to their leadership team for everyone to tell all the troops to take the weekend off and they’re. Like why is really military required to serve in the israeli military? You look it up on google maps, it’s a very small area. I want to put up on google maps i. Want you guys to see it. It’s crazy! It’s a super small area and it’s surrounded by all these arab countries that hate the israelites I mean not everybody from an arab country hates these rallies. But for years thousands of years they’ve been attacked.

They just don’t like them. What happens if they get a message. Soldiers you’re? Taking the your order to take this weekend off and go on vacation, they call it a holiday. So all the guys, like, okay cool that are super intense right now it is a very intense situation-did egyptians the jordanians, the syrians. It’s an intense build up there putting beat the is the egyptians, the syrians, the jordan, the jordanian there like loading up their runways with jets. These guys are bringing in tanks there’s obviously a military board, a build up, happy chapter spy planes have seen a massive buildup aka, there’s an escalation and they know they’re going to get bombed from all sites I’ll put some showed up dizzy from all side. This is israel an easy jordan over here to get lebanon over here. Saudi arabia uses air is everybody. Hates up I mean it’s there like what is it this would be like being in broken arrow and knowing that the rest of oklahoma is trying to build up and kill you. So your response is, let’s send the guys on vacation, and so all the guys are going. Okay, let’s do it. Man so they’re all out swimming on the beaches in the the armies are think about attacking or like hey there all on vacation. We got couple three more weeks before they’re, even ready to fight, so we’re all good, so they send their people on vacation. So what happens is benny israeli commander sends a message, and he says as soon as possible. We need to have just a quick meeting, but I know their wires are being tapped. They know they’re being spied on, wednesday to have a meeting about vacation planning and some certain things. I have the guys report back to the base and we want to talk about vacation. We need to make sure we have more balance in the lives of our soldiers and their put mental health. Why don’t they know their wires are being tapped? This is so good. Then they verbally communicate to the soldiers. Your jets are fully fueled up fully bombed up I want you to fly as low as possible under 500 feet above the ground. This is like crazy. While he’s running the trees, if you get much lower, fly, louis you’re, not detectable by radar, go over. There drop your entire payload on the runway and then pull up the bridges and then come back and when you come back as soon as you come back, the next guys going to take off immediately and we’re going to do this working 24-hour shifts for 6 days and we’re going to win, but if not we’re going to lose and they got domination so that he didn’t know he was going. He thought it was like we’re just meeting right now. Let’s go! This is not a drill through this thing, like imagine what it’d be like to fly 500 feet of the best business coach ground by the way, what it’s like the blow estate ever flown, but you can’t be detected by radar and they all of the soldiers of the arab countries are literally they’re just hanging out there playing soccer. He said they almost felt bad. These guys are playing soccer they’re, not even though I’ve known it’s coming and they just start blowing up the runway right, then they’re ordered dump fuel on him and set it on fire on these people. So now they’re burning alive and they blow up all the bridges. So if you have bridges blown up, can’t get any when you have run away is blown up what you going to do! Air force these countries have a massive air force in massive tanks that cannot reach israel 6-day. Think about this. For the next 6 days, israel israel killed 20,000 arab troops and lost less than a thousand of their own, and they be a military strength that was 10 times greater than theirs.

In 6 days to understand, world war 2 took like years 6 days these homeboys one that right there is using that law for best business coach good for the game of business. If you’re not trying to fight a hostile, war with the enemy, with tanks and guns to walk around management marshall when you just kind of walk around what does that do for your office, but can’t walk? Well, it’s an accountability that team members are not prepared for, and this is what happens when you install video rose and actually prefer to record the phone calls of your call center team and you do the spot. Checking you got to walk around just kind of how the police are spot. Checking the highways and making sure that you’re falling the speed limit the other day I had to get laid in our team. I pulled her side of town i. Just listened to your call and I need to make sure you bring a little more enthusiasm at the beginning, but the rest of call was great and you can see the look on her face like oh, my gosh she’s, really listening. That’s all you need to do that. Tell you do it so again. Laws of power law is keep others and suspended terror and cultivate an air of unpredictability. I would say, be unpredictable spy on everybody, trust. No one old, lady paranoid survive time show you can find the podcasts. Do you want one business coaching, the conferences and thousands of videos today drive time, show. Com and is always free to watch


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