Using Self-Deprecation and Observational Humor Effectively | Using Humor to Win Friends and Influence People (Part 4)

Show Notes

Clay teaches the essential comedic skills of self-deprecation and observational humor in the context of business.

  • Self Deprecation
    1. DEFINITION – Self-Deprecation – “Belittling or undervaluing oneself; excessively modest.”
    2. ACTION STEPS –
      1. Write down a list that you are either terrible at or things that are obvious flaws.
      2. Think about those things and make sure you can acknowledge them.
    3. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Every night before I get my one hour of sleep, I have the same thought: “Well, that’s a wrap on another day of acting like I know what I’m doing.” I wish I were exaggerating, but I’m not. Most of the time, I feel entirely unqualified to be a parent. I call these times being awake.” ― Jim Gaffigan (From the New York Times best-selling book, Dad Is Fat)
  • Observations That Are Too True to Be Socially Acceptable
    1. DEFINITION – Observation – “The action or process of observing something or someone carefully or in order to gain information.”
    2. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Dogs are the leaders of the planet. If you see two life forms, one of them’s making a poop, the other one’s carrying it for him, who would you assume is in charge.” – Jerry Seinfeld (From the New York Times best-selling book  Seinlanguage)

NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “But truly, women are amazing. Think about it this way: a woman can grow a baby inside her body. Then a woman can deliver the baby through her body. Then, by some miracle, a woman can feed a baby with her body. When you compare that to the male’s contribution to life, it’s kind of embarrassing, really.” ― Jim Gaffigan (From the New York Times best-selling book, Dad Is Fat)

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And now, back to the tri time, shell, on top radio 1170 stage 4 talk about today, is how to use humor to win, friends and influence. People know i, want everybody to get this business podcasrts idea. When you hold somebody accountable, do you make a checklist? This just happened to me what this past week is fabulous situation. We have certain systems that need to be used in similar companies. Yes, yes and somebody chose not to use the system, but in a meeting I said:hey I noticed I didn’t receive such and such from you, and they said. Oh I made my own system, oh wow, so not only do they not do their job, but they changed a core system. If you go head on with an alpha in a group, meeting who made a change for whatever reason they thought was the right move and you don’t have a little bit of tact or a little bit of humor. What’s going to happen in my life before discovering all these moves more often than not, it did get ugly. So what I want to do them? I teach his next move to dissolve attention. I, like this move, is move here and my mind is the most applicable form of humor that everybody can use and just called it is called self-deprecation not to make this happen to everybody to take the following action:steps and chip I’d like for you to type in the show, notes and I like to write this down. I’d like for you to write this down. Remind me to write down a list of things that you are either terrible at or that are obvious obvious flaws things that are obvious. We are like I am not it’s abundantly clear that I’m not good at that. It’s not a desirable attributedif. You want to think about those things, because if you can’t acknowledge those things it makes you really unpalatable to be business podcasts around so I’m going to start first and then we’ll we’ll see if he can one-up me on our honor feelings. Okay, here we go.

My, feeling big one I am afraid of speed heights, like any type of height that all speed and water. So today, joel david show me a picture of the craziest pictures ever tim sitting on a ledge where he’s wichita on the edge and underneath him it’s a thousand foot drop, is out of the grand canyon or something and I look at the photo on his phone, and he had me zoom in I literally got queasy looking at the photos when I get on a plane, every time I get on the plane, I’ll, let you know start to get like hives on certain, like blotches on my body and I’m. Just the play accelerates, pics of I’m just i. Every time, I just need any type of turbulence at all. Any type of bumping up and down I mean it’s it’s just not a good thing:water, lakes bodies of water, oceans. You know just speed jet skis water, skiing, speed boating out during going downhill fast on anything at all. The business podcasts movement causes me to get so worked up that vanessa literally she booked the trip for florida. Here it’s going to happen a few weeks and she says to me:are you going to keep it together and the kids? My son is old enough now to be aware of what I am always aware of. He goes mom. We don’t want to go and I said we want to go no cuz dad’s going to do his thing and it’s done fun for us and he’s like you had a total breakdown. You had to go to jet ski and you didn’t want to go you question who repaired it last night mom was going so fast to make, can’t have fun and romantic i. Look it up and I’m. Looking for somebody to like son. Please, someone and I was like i. Don’t want to go guys. I’ve been on good I have done, I have had a good trip before they go yeah.

We went to owensboro where there’s nothing going on jordan shirts service to work, and that’s why he was a fine, because there was nothing to you had no triggers 37 year old 7 year old, dad so I have fun guys. So I have telling my kids all week. I am going to make this trip awesome and then my wife knows I’m very griswold ian. So once I build up, I get an idea in my mind:i build it up to sit in possibly high standard for the itinerary. Perfect, no vacation could possibly live up to possibly high start making this itinerary and when things don’t go, the way I want them to at always causes. Yet another meltdown, so I’m, just hoping that I can get through this i. Don’t ask you to see I mean. Do you have everything you recognize like? This is something that you used to have a huge fair, a huge fear in my life right now, driving in the business podcasts car with you driving are you driving the car and I’m a passenger in the car? It’s a huge I mean I want to start. You know you happen to me this weekend. Oh, my gosh first is the worst driver in the world. We were in construction and there was a fun run going on. I, know, i, don’t know, I don’t want to know, i, don’t even know how many people run over. That day was good to. That was three business podcasts sausage biscuits on her way to pick up the van after recording responded, then he goes no, never mind. I’ll take the bag of five, it’s like a bag of biscuits, and on top of that, you want to add the cheese and egg to those, and so this $5 bag of biscuits since I’ve been almost $16 worth of yourself.

It creates this ridiculous gap between you and your team. They think that you think you’re, awesome and I think z. When you grew your your business. Is it mean you have? You have to be approachable, you have to be approachable and you have to have a little fun with yourself, because if you take yourself too seriously, it’s just the word. Isn’t it and we’ve all been around people like that you’re, just like you just want to say, lighten up francis stick-in-the-mud, yeah i, just like to smile. You know what started off really well he’s smiling smile before you start to tell your story smile as you’re in a difficult position, smile when you’re having that smile for the meeting come up and do what is the disease that I changed? It it’s. This is the only thing that makes me palatable, cuz I’m, so intense, all the time, i, don’t even realize. Like my kids, like dad, you were literally so mad that we didn’t leave exactly on time to go to the grocery store before we went to the ocean because it’s in the itinerary for on vacation i, like oh yeah, call in a minute. What’s the point of even trying I should go to sleep self-deprecation ryan. Can you read the note of a quart of all the voice of choice? What is self-deprecation undervaluing oneself waterboys is bringing grandma heat there.

No chuck. Can you read this little bill example of notable quotable is from jim gaffigan famous comedian. He says every night before I get my 1 hour of sleep. I have the same thought:that’s a wrap on another day of acting like I know what I’m doing I wish I were exaggerating but I’m, not most of the time. I feel entirely unqualified to be a parent I called the times being awake, jim, gaffigan comedian, jim gaffigan. So if you find yourself today. Looking at yourself from a self-deprecating perspective, ucl what I don’t know how to get my spine in line i, don’t know how to adjust my own spine. You got to go check traffic going to go visit, doctor sibling website. What does pl ey.Com dr. John sibley phone number is 918-749-5741 again:+91-874-957-4182 workshop, led by america’s number one business coats were freed by subscribing on itunes and leaving us an objective review. Claim your tickets by emailing us group that you did it and your contact information to danforth drive, time show.Com. My truck needs to go back to the conversation. Is the drive time show on your radio and in shape. You know, there’s a lot of things that I’m thankful for this year. Don’t miss 18th day of april thankful for the love of family thankful in a climate-controlled environment and pests inside the studio, yeah I went to an all-inclusive resort in cancun. Another reason why I should not travel I go to cancun on there with my wife, and this is true stories it use.

If you see any iguanas, they have any tropical countries inside of a dog. They could be me how long 3ft dwarf youtube in the past and whenever I walk, i, don’t look down and it’s like I have vertigo. So it’s hard to just even just walked by I’m walking and I’m, focused on talking to my wife, I’m, just talking my wife and then I step on an iguana, but she says to me:look I just keep walking right on there, a dinosaur! It’s just. How did you step on it? We can see it forever in the walk on the straight path for the longest time, so I’m serious I got like it’s like I’ve, been scared or unsettled. So now, I go and I’m like okay I’m, almost over that’s like a day I’m going to cash. This is intense place. Yes, we give that morning. We have a tropical beverages, think it’s one of those like a mango, but would like some kind of like a rum in it or something and then I’m in the pool having a good time business podcasts swimming around in the pool and then I lean back. It’s like it is like this thing is like a jurassic park extra. He knows a little against your ex then she said:how did you not see it? No one else got in the pool, they saw it and it’s the biggest craziest, most miller league. One also refer in on this. Is this is a thing i, don’t notice like spiders insects, mosquitoes buzz and bliss is like. How do you not see the spider on the table?

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Com acceptable. This is the final move going to teach her how to use humor to win, friends and influence people about this because z, when you see patterns, you will be called a bigot a while you will be labeled as like this guy’s, not politically correct this guy’s a loose cannon, so you can! This is what’s hilarious is so funny you are one of my favorite comedians. He was asked why they are you:doing, do what’s your deal. Jamie foxx and his academy award nominated actor best season, the movie ray and jamie foxx truth again, and you can’t do that as an actor, but is a comedian. You can say it and people laugh yeah. You say it like an awards event or you say to somebody space. It’s like wow that guy know what that guy so I’ll give me. Example what time are conferences I noticed we have a few 8280 90% caucasian midwest lot of people coming over time. You see that that change up it’s getting more and more diversified, all the time and so I’ll say hey I’ll, be here for a second and then I’ll, say:hey real, quick I know we have a lot of caucasian. So what kind of slow down here real, quick I’ll? Try to teach you some of the struggles real. We as a group need rhythm therapy. You go to a wedding and you see a lot of caucasians and there’s maybe one who’s. The business podcasts sensation with the rest. It’s like a friend of mine is, is it he’s always? Joking he’s? Always joking about how how like everybody he knows, is super serious super focused and he’s agent. So we can say that, because he’s the asian guy and I tell him I am also a. We have kind of the humor about he’s, always asking me like ninja questions and things that only japanese people would know it’s kind of a funny relationship. But I’m saying you can have that amongst friends, yes, stendra observational, humor out you got to be real careful.

You got to be careful with the definition, the voice of choice, of what the word observation means national process of observing something or someone carefully. In order to gain information, it’s safe, it’s fun! It’s real good! Clever dogs are the leaders of the planet. If you see to lie for him and one of them is making a poop and the other one is carrying it for him, would you assume is in charge? This is not to have dogs or girl, because I can’t run around caring more about the dog that myself or even caring about the dog at all i. Just can’t I can’t I can’t have cats to the cats. Can go out in whatever I couldn’t run around picking up their poop and right there I have to pass time. Was it by particular dog butt home from work? Are you saying to yourself I can’t wait to walk the dog and I think I’m going to have him put him on his face,, what it is cuz you’re wondering who’s coming to big poop today, maybe maybe somebody pooping in that go made. It look at all the different places. I can go ahead and poop already have a dog eating grass just to make it extra nasty, observational business podcasts humor from jim gaffigan, the new york times bestselling, author of the book. My dad is fat, go for it, but truly women are amazing. Think about it. This way a woman can grow a baby inside her body. When a woman can deliver a baby through her body, then by some miracle a woman can feed a baby with her body. When you compare that to a male’s contribution to life, it’s kind of embarrassing really.

True, that’s a true true! It’s all right, but sometimes you just got to be careful of observing something as eat. Sometimes, but it’s it’s tune, it’s too true, so I’m, just telling you I mean there is until you got to be careful with that.. This is the dynamite. This is see if you seen people make make make a failed attempt at using this kind of humor. Have you seen this before we go? Oh yes, you ever met anybody in this area, the room. Yet no one say anything and I was saying you say it never looks you like is right with you. I would just be like that. I said it did. You got to follow up with some other humor. Would you say that I do hear? That. I said that out loud you’re going to use humor be intentional about it. Yes, just like I’m business podcasts intentionally out thinking our show sponsor dr. Sibley chuck chuck. What’s the website, he is one of tulsa’s number one chiropractors, dr. John sibley,, that’s dr, j, o h, n s, I b l e y dr. John sibley,. His phone number is 918-749-5741 to visit our website. Thrive time show.Com. We have a free gift for you. You got to drivetime show.Com, you can download the start here book absolutely free. It’s a 550 page proven steps to growing a successful company. Also we have the podcast with hundreds of podcasts. We have thousands of videos archived up there for you. We have one-on-one business coaching and we have where you can purchase tickets to are in person. Drive time, show workshops, that’s dr. Z, that’s the business coach, it’s mr. Ryan arnold, and now my friends, my family, my neighbor’s, my colleagues, my peers. My foot know me the homies that know me:honey for the, raid, 2, 3,

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