What To Do When Encountering Emotion | Destroying Distraction | A Scientific Approach (Part 2)

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Are you allowing your emotions to distract you? Learn proven moves for getting more done by not allowing your emotions to lead you down the path of becoming a reactive person.

MYSTIC STATISTIC – “Average American watches 5 hours of TV per day, report shows.”

  1. http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/average-american-watches-5-hours-tv-day-article-1.1711954

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  • When you encounter an emotion the (uh-mig-duh-luh) amygdala portion of your brain immediately springs into action:
    1. FACT – “Your smartphone is causing your amygdala to dominate your thinking while killing your critical thinking skills.”
    2. FACT – “A roughly almond-shaped mass of gray matter inside each cerebral hemisphere, involved with the experiencing of emotions. The Emotions of love, hate, fear, sadness, greed, jealousy, joy, laughter, hope and fun are carried out by the amygdala.”
    3. Critical Thinking – Definition – “Critical thinking is the intellectually disciplined process of actively and skillfully conceptualizing, applying, analyzing, synthesizing, and/or evaluating information gathered from, or generated by, observation, experience, reflection, reasoning, or communication, as a guide to belief and action.”
    4. Cognitive Thinking – Definition – “This refers to the use of mental activities and skills to perform tasks such as learning, reasoning, understanding, remembering, paying attention, and more.”
    5. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Sometimes I wish I never found the Internet. Sometimes I regret getting a laptop and Wifi for logging into the Internet because it is such a distraction. If you have any addictive personality, the Internet will magnify it.” – Lupe Fiasco (Lupe Fiasco was raised in Chicago developed an interest in hip hop after initially disliked the genre because of its’ vulgar lyrics and its’ over-all misogyny.  He created the name Lupe Fiasco and began recording out of his father’s basement. At the age of 19 he joined a group that was named Da Pak. The group never did well and quickly ended, however when Lupe met Jay-Z he helped him to sign a record deal with Atlantic Records. Soon after, Lupe released, Lupe Fiasco’s Food & Liquor, which received three Grammy nominations. Lupe quickly released his second album, Lupe Fiasco’s The Cool, in December of the year 2007. Lupe’s first single to become a major hit was “Superstar.” This song became a major top 40 hit on the Billboard Hot 100. After a two-year delay, Lasers was released in March 2011 to mixed reviews; however, it became his first album to debut at number one on the Billboard 200. His latest album, Drogas Light, was released in February 2017.
  • When you encounter an emotional input the logical portion of your brain shuts off immediately.
    1. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “I don’t Twitter, I don’t MyFace, I don’t Yearbook.” – Bill Belichick (Head Coach of the New England Patriots who has a record of 214 and 74 with a winning percentage of 74.3% with the Patriots)
    2. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – ‘I’m not on SnapFace … not worried about InstantChat.” – Bill Belichick (Head Coach of the New England Patriots who has a record of 214 and 74 with a winning percentage of 74.3% with the Patriots)
    3. “NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “I don’t carry an iPhone.” – Paul Graham (The founder of Y-Combinator the entrepreneur incubator behind Reddit, Dropbox, AirBnB, etc.)
    4. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “I don’t think modern science has good answers here. I think that modern world is actually really bad. The modern world is full of distractions. Things like Twitter and Facebook are not making you happy. They are making you unhappy. You are essentially playing a game that’s created by the creators of those systems, and yes, it can be a useful game once in a blue moon. You are engaging in the dispute, and resentment, comparison, jealousy, anger about things that frankly just don’t matter.” – Naval Ravikant (Naval Ravikant is the CEO and a co-founder of AngelList.
    5. NOTABLE QUOTABLE – “Anyone who has tried to build something that changes people’s lives sometimes finds life to be a distraction, and finds people who don’t care as much as they do to be annoying.” – Ashton Kutcher
    6. FACT – Ashton KUTCHER AND Guy  OSEARY JOINED WITH Ronald Burkle to form A-Grade Investments in 2010 (the first three letters of the fund represent each founder’s first name). The billionaire contributed $8 million and the use of his back office, while Kutcher and Oseary added $1 million each of their own. A-Grade’s early checks started out in the $50,000 to $100,000 range, gradually pushing into seven-figure territory. The trio targeted startups with three traits: appealing founders with whom they actively wanted to work; a problem-solving mission statement oriented around saving or enriching time; and, finally, a business model that could be boosted by their involvement.
    7. “There are a lot of celebrity ‘tourists’ in our industry these days,” says billionaire investor Chris Sacca, who graced the cover of last year’s Midas List issue. “Famous people lurking around trying to get a piece of the pie but without bringing any value to the table. For Ashton in particular it’s been a daily commitment to tech for at least eight years now.”

But like Hollywood and music, venture capital is a hits business. And even if you take away the Uber and Airbnb jackpots, A-Grade’s performance remains a solid 3.3x, thanks to other winners, including a $3 million investment in Spotify in 2010 (up at least 3x), $300,000 in Warby Parker two years later (up 7x) and $1.5 million in Houzz in 2014 (up 6x). https://www.forbes.com/sites/zackomalleygreenburg/2016/03/23/how-ashton-kutcher-and-guy-oseary-built-a-250-million-portfolio-with-startups-like-uber-and-airbnb/#2e2b93471175

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